Say No the Right Way

How much time do you spend on tasks that do not align with your purpose, skills or gifts?

Say no to most things you’re asked to do so you can get better and better at your one thing. Mastering the one or very few things that require your strengths is much better than trying to master 1,000 things for a bit of recognition. The more time you spend focusing on manifesting your own intended greatness, the more value you bring to your own life and to those around you.

Saying no the right way

Keep it short and sweet and don’t offer explanations. Most often, a redirection to the person best suited to the task is the most graceful way to say no. If the word “no” sends you out of your element, try one of the following rebuttals.

  • “Now’s not a good time. How about we reconnect at (specific) time?”
  • “I’m not the best person for this. Sounds like something John may be able to help with.”
  • “I can’t commit to this at the moment. You may want to try (action here).”

Silence is golden

It’s tempting to provide an immediate response when you get a text or email from a colleague. However, other tasks must wait when your current workload requires your immediate attention. Relinquishing control allows other team members to shine so that you can focus on your purpose.

Set boundaries

Systemizing email-checking to certain times of day can boost productivity. Try to reserve checking emails from colleagues and employees to twice a day while making sure that someone is always accessible to customers or leads. Be sure to let your colleagues know that if a matter is urgent, you can still be reached by phone.

Saying no is part of communicating effectively.

When you say no to tasks that are not intended for you, you are articulating your purpose, vision and objective(s). It is much better to spend your time operating in alignment with your purpose than struggling to prove yourself in an arena that is not intended for you.

Let go of your fear of “no.”

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